hey again a long entry but i think it's worth reading...
once upon a time, there was a Boy and a Gal who were from the same school but from different levels... the Boy was 3 years older than the Gal but somehow through frens they got to know one another... the Gal, wasn't really pretty, but still above average... was quite loud in school... as in she's the loudest among her group of frens.... but she wasn't acting loud... cos her laughter was loud... lolx... quite a funny character among her frens...
but the most important thing: they are neighbours... that's what that brings their frenship closer... they see each other everyday... Boy then gradually fall in love with Gal and begun to talk to her everyday on the phone, and sms her... Gal would then reply his sms, and when he called, she'll talk to him till she fall asleep... next morning, they'll sms each other from the time they woke up till they reach school... and then after school... and during dinner... and the cycle continues...
frens who knows about this starts to tease them... put their names together... and even their family members joke about them being together... but actually they were only frens... Boy then starts to "test" if Gal is interested in him as well... but Gal insists that they are only frens... but actually Gal is alittle fond of him... but not to the stage of like or love... they have never went out before or even meet up in school when they were alone... they only talk on the fone and through sms... communicating with each other... so Gal can't imagine them being together, thus telling herself that she don't like him at all... but when they quarrelled, both Boy and Gal can't resist messaging each other, and when they don't receive each other messages for a day, they'll feel so terrible and at a loss...
Love has already planted a seed in each of their's hearts without them knowing it...after a few months... Boy decides to ask Gal to be his Galfren... and Gal agrees... they were together finally... but then, they broke up within 2days... no one knows wat happens... it was just their usual quarrel... and being too young to understand love, they decided to forsake love... they decide not to talk to each other... in school, they avoid each other... at the lift lobby, they pretend not to see one another... days passed, this continues... and when Boy graduates, and moved to the next level, he starts to know more people, and has a new GalFren... Gal is then devastated and sad, but she can't do anything but blamed herself for giving him up... Gal regretted her decision, and could only wish Boy all the best in his next relationship...
love comes when you most unexpected it... love is blind, you wouldn't know why you would like the other person in the first place, it just happens... and when it happens, you should cherish it and make the fullest out of it...
when 2 good frens become together, everything stays the same, just that the status becomes different... but everything that you talk about, you share with one another is the same... nothing changes... and of course, you should go out with one another, then you would find out more of each other, know the habits of each other, and see if you share the same interests... of course, all these starts off from frens... but because Boy and Gal did not go out with each other at all when they were frens, they couldn't understand each other... and when they got together, they expected too much from each other... they straightaway assume the duties of BoyFren and GalFren, which stresses them out, and causes them to split...
actually almost all relationship starts off from frens... knowing each other, knowing the interests, knowing the habits, knowing the objectives in life, knowing the hobbies, knowing the favourites... good frens may know each other's everything, but not all good frens may continue to develop into couples... some good frens may forever stay as good frens... and remain only as good frens... while some good frens may have interest in each other, but once they never cherish the oppportunity to voice that out, the other party might have found someone else and fall in love with the other person... some good frens may only be good frens, whereby they can't be with each other as they understand the other party too well... so well that if they becomes a couple, they'll only quarrel and split...
but most importantly, when ever misunderstanding happens, you should
talk over it...
not shout at each other or even
don't talk about it... meaning avoiding it... talking over what the problem is
helps... but of cos, you must talk lah... not quarral ok...